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Speakers are Paul and Virginia Friesen

Drs. Paul and Virginia Friesen were married in 1976 and have three young adult daughters and two Godly sons-in-law. They both have Doctorates in Marriage and Family Therapy from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and are the lead resource couple at Home Improvement Ministries. The Friesens regularly speak at marriage, men’s, and women’s conferences in the US and internationally, are frequently invited to give family and parenting seminars, and have an ongoing ministry with professional athletes.

The Friesens have authored over ten books and curriculums on parenting and marriage, including Letters to My Daughters, In Our Image, Raising a Trailblazer, Before You Save the Date, and most recently, The Marriage App.

Paul and Virginia’s greatest joy in life is knowing that their children are walking in the Truth.

What attendees are saying about
H.I.M.’s “Engagement Matters” weekends

It has encouraged us to truly think about the future, not just the present. It has pulled us out of the dark on what engagement and marriage should look like.

I think this will ultimately draw us closer—but we have identified some areas to discuss further.

It made us seriously look at the things we’d brushed aside and decide if these were big enough to be deal breakers—or if we could grow through them. We have realized we need to depend far more on God and His word than just on our emotions for marriage.

It gave us a lot to think about as we move forward. It was also encouraging to know that we are on the right track and that many of the “issues” we are facing are common to most couples.

It is so easy to get caught up in planning the wedding that you forget to continue building the relationship. Engagement Matters gave us a great chance to keep digging deeper into how to have a marriage that is not just ordinary, but extraordinary.

Weekend Description

Believing that marriage is the second most important decision in life . . .

. . . Engagement Matters is an experience designed to help engaged or pre-engaged couples confirm God’s best for them in their relationship with each other, and to help equip couples for a marriage in which both God and one another are honored. In our time together we will discuss the areas of Convictions, Character, Compatibility, and Chemistry. During each session on these areas, couples will first have an opportunity to reflect together and discuss the topic, and then hear a presentation to the whole group.

A special session on temperaments will be devoted to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, an instrument that will help you discover your unique temperament and how the pairing of different temperaments can strengthen marriage.

The goal in all these sessions is to help you come to a place of confirmation about the direction your relationship should take, as well as offering you tools to help you start a life together. We hope you’ll join us!

The $150.00 per couple fee includes a continental breakfast on Saturday and Sunday, a full lunch on Saturday and Sunday, and all materials.

This event will be held in Boxford, Massachusetts. Directions will be sent upon receipt of your deposit of $50.00 per couple (non-refundable). The balance is due two weeks prior to the event. No housing is provided, but if you are from out of town and need assistance finding housing, please contact us.

Engagement Matters Weekend Schedule
Saturday Activity
    8:30 – 9:00 am Continental breakfast and registration
    9:00 – 9:30 am Introductions to each other and to the course
    9:30 – 10:15 am “Marriage: One of God’s Best Ideas”
    10:15am – 12:00 pm Convictions
    12:00 – 12:30 pm Testimonies from resource couples
    12:30 – 1:30 pm Lunch
    1:30 – 3:15  pm Character
    3:15 – 3:30 pm Break
    3:30 – 4:30 pm Temperaments
    4:30 pm Dinner and evening on your own
Sunday Activity
    8:30 – 9:00 am Continental breakfast and registration
    9:00 – 10:45 am Compatibility
    10:45 – 11:00 am Break
    11:00 am – 12:45 pm Chemistry
    12:45 – 1:45 pm Lunch
    1:45 – 3:00 pm Question-and-answer session and conclusion
    3:00 pm Dismiss
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